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How to Spot an Abuser: Clue #7 Selective Raging
In my book, Urge Overkill: A Story of Breaking Free, this clue took me awhile to get my mind around. A real long time, as in 20 some...
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How To Spot an Abuser: Clue #6 Killjoy
In your relationship do you find that your partner takes away your joy? Does this person find you in a good mood only to try and squelch...
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How to Spot an Abuser #5: Physical Violence
Physical Violence is a sure sign you are in an abusive relationship. But the thing is, it almost never starts with a busted lip. Abusers...
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How To Spot an Abuser: Clue #4 Shaming
Everyone wants and deserves to be in a good relationship, but sometimes it takes awhile to realize that you've gotten yourself into a bad...
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How To Spot an Abuser- Clue #3: Walking on Egg Shells
While the signs of physical abuse are more obvious, the more subtle ones of emotional abuse are sometimes harder to discern. Yet they are...
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How to Spot an Abuser: Clue #2 Jealousy
Did you know October is National Domestic Violence Awareness month? Rather than try to escape a bad relationship once it has begun, what...
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How to Spot an Abuser- Clue #1 Name Calling
If you read my book Urge Overkill: A Story of Breaking Free, you'd know that I felt totally and completely caught off guard by my ex...