

How To Spot an Abuser: Clue #4 Shaming
Everyone wants and deserves to be in a good relationship, but sometimes it takes awhile to realize that you've gotten yourself into a bad one. If your partner is physically assaulting you, it's clear that you're in an abusive relationship, but what about other types of negative relationships? An emotionally abusive relationship can be just as damaging as a physically abusive one, but it can also be more subtle and harder to discern. People are more likely to stay longer with


How To Spot an Abuser- Clue #3: Walking on Egg Shells
While the signs of physical abuse are more obvious, the more subtle ones of emotional abuse are sometimes harder to discern. Yet they are just as damaging. This brings us to one of the hallmarks of emotional abuse. You know you are with an abuser if that person has you walking on egg shells. This means you find yourself tip toeing around your partner's moods. It's when you edit your own thoughts and ideas always using a filter before you speak to them. Why? To keep from setti


How to Spot an Abuser: Clue #2 Jealousy
Did you know October is National Domestic Violence Awareness month? Rather than try to escape a bad relationship once it has begun, what if we could spot and stop abuser types beforehand? In my book Urge Overkill: A Story of Breaking Free, I looked back and noticed it seemed all of my ex's abusive behavior stayed hidden below the surface of their six month courtship. It didn't start until we began living together. This important clue didn't surface until me had moved far away