How to Spot an Abuser Clue #11: Isolation

Does your partner isolate you from your friends and family? Consider whether you feel free.

Even in the most committed healthy relationships, each partner should feel the freedom to express themselves and make their own decisions. Abusive people intentionally strip their victims of power and freedom. They are generally jealous and controlling and may even attempt to make you feel guilty for trying to express your own needs.

Consider whether you see any of the following:

1) Your partner demands that you “check in” with him/her all the time

2) Your partner tries to control what you wear, where you go, and who you spend time with

3) Your internet, cellphone, or social media use is monitored, or your partner demands your account passwords

4) You don’t have easy access to money or transportation

5) Your partner isolates you from your friends and family

6) Your partner forbids you to see other people unless s/he is with you, or expresses anger that you want to spend time with friends on your own

If you answered yes to any of these questions you may be in an abusive relationship. Reach out for more information. For crisis and counseling services, call the National Domestic Violence Hotline at 1-800-799-7233 or TTY 1-800-787-3224. http://www.thehotline.org/

Know that their advocates are here to support you every step of the way with a sympathetic hear and zero judgment. They are available 24/7/365 and interactions are completely free and confidential.

May you be happy, healthy, safe and at peace.

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