How to Spot an Abuser: Clue #9 Low Frustration Tolerance
Have you ever had an abusive partner? That is someone who has used degrading and demeaning language, withheld affection or financial help in order to punish you, hit you, shoved you, punched you, kicked you, or consistently yelled at you? And after being involved with that abuser, did you ask yourself if there were signs you missed that would have helped you detect their abusive tendencies earlier on? If you answered yes, it is best to put your sleuth skills to work before st
How to Spot an Abuser: Clue #8 Unpredictable Mood Swings
Research shows that the mood swings of an abusive individual can be staggering. For instance, they can go from pleasant and romantic to total rage in a matter of seconds. I have seen this first hand. This extremely unpredictable behavior is typically aimed at a partner they are trying to make submissive so they won’t be challenged. Picture this scenario as an example. Your partner surprises you after work with a bouquet of flowers and he tells you he’s made reservations at yo
How to Spot an Abuser: Clue #7 Selective Raging
In my book, Urge Overkill: A Story of Breaking Free, this clue took me awhile to get my mind around. A real long time, as in 20 some years. Selective raging is an excuse that doesn’t hold water. Of course, there is no justification for any kind of domestic violence. This factoid came from the National Network to End Domestic Violence at https://nnedv.org/. Remembering back to one of the worst nights of my life, was when the realization of this clue hit me. There was an incide
