Green Flags of a Healthy Relationship: Feeling Safe
If you've read my previous posts you maybe noticing a change in perspective on this one! Do you see how I am changing my series? Rather than focusing on the red flags of spotting an abuser I am flipping the script. I want to manifest in the positive. And honesty, who doesn't? I don't know about you but writing about and focusing on what people DO want in a relationships feels so much better! Do you feel safe emotionally and physically? In the presence of your significant othe
How to Spot an Abuser Clue #12: Emotional Immaturity
Imagine if you could spot an abuser on a first or second date. What if you could already tell if s/he is a would-be abuser? If you know what to look for, you can! One telltale sign is the abuser’s alloplastic defenses – a tendency to blame every mistake on others, every failure, or mishap on others or on the world at large. You know, the blame game? Everything is someone else's fault? Not taking responsibility? According to research, this is a common abuser trait. Use the fol
